Here Charitable Individualism is the key!… nothing less.


It needs guts and loads of it to say what Ram Gopal Varma says despite being in the show biz. His latest interview in THE BANGALORE MIRROR states: forced to make a choice between a beautiful woman and an intelligent woman, i’d rather go for the beautiful one, as i am already intelligent and there is no need of inteliigence in a woman!

GUTS is because he makes his personal preference appear to be the NORM. Let us look at it this way, probably had he been great looking and lagging behind in intelligence probably he’d have preferred “intelligent woman” (pardon my oxymoron!) and would have given reasons as to why he preferred an INTELLIGENT WOMAN. I am a strong believer that a WOMAN NEEDS BRAINS LIKE A FISH NEEDS  BICYCLE. She has to be beautiful, not outwardly, nor like the Paulian prescription at I Timothy 2:9:

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

but beautifully “expressive”. It is like the beauty of a flower that strives not to capture your attention, but silently “IS” expressing its beauty for the connoisseur to appreciate.It is that BEAUTY which is ELEVATING. Intelligence in a woman makes her EARTHY and not ETHEREAL. It is that ETHEREAL-ness in a woman which makes her beautiful. She makes “choices” but declines to give reasons because her reasons might hurt others, she is “kind” but never allows others to “use” her, she is “wily” but clothes her actions with excitement and tears that no man would dare attribute evil motives to her ( remember how  Eve ate the forbidden fruit and after having transgressed God’s command “gave some of it to Adam” too and ensured that ADAM was also guilty of the same transgression! Made him an accomplice sweetly!!), she resolves her conflicts in silence and well integrates her solution with emotionally charged tantrums, apologizes for inane infringements but keeps all those criminal thoughts and deeds to herself! That is what makes a WOMAN beautiful. It is this compendium of qualities which make her BEAUTIFUL in the eyes of a MAN. A severe “challenge” to his INTELLIGENCE. SHE is an ENIGMA, as the man needs proof and the woman conceals it with an “exterior” which defies the tantalizing “proof” that he supposes he discovered!!

Beauty is that. Let us go to the movie GONE WITH THE WIND and see those 2 women characters- Scarlet O’Hara and Melanie. The opening words of Margaret Mitchell in the book is , “ Scarlet O’Hara was not beautiful, but..” and goes on to show how beautiful Scarlet O’Hara was. It is such “beauty” that probably Ram Gopal Varma has been talking about.

My lady friends especially THE ONES on the side of the Woman’s lib would argue that MEN FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE WITH MORE BEAUTIFUL BUT LESS INTELLIGENT WOMEN. Maybe they are right, and as a wag put it MEN SELDOM MAKE PASSES AT A WOMAN WHO SURPASSES!

Let me conclude with one of the statements of one of the greatest researchers of human mind said about woman: Sigmund Freud- “Despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul (pardon his presumption- as if they had one!), i have not yet been able to answer ………the great question that has never been answered: What does a woman want?”


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